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So, your confidence needs a major boost, huh?

Most of us would agree with this statement, at any point in time. That’s because the misleading messages on social media make us believe that confidence is a natural thing that you feel on a consistent basis (if you have it).

Before I give you some confidence tips to get better results in your remote job search, I want to address this.

– Confidence is a learned skill –

It gets better over time. But you probably will not feel super confident 100% of the time even when you have learned this skill. If influencers, celebs, and role models are being transparent, they will tell you that they don’t feel confident ALL the time. However, they do feel pretty confident when it counts. And that’s why they are successful.

I’ll confess to you all right now: I don’t feel confident when I wake up first thing in the morning.

It actually takes listening to an audio of a motivational speaker (usually Abraham Hicks), meditation, or some evidence of my goals being achieved to help me feel confident enough to take on the day. I’m actively working on this, trusting in the universe, and knowing that my inner being doesn’t need affirmation to feel confident. I’ve got this. Then I activate my optimism, confidence, and FUN that you are used to seeing from me as your career coach.

Does that make you feel a bit better? You may see me on Facebook Live trainings and think that I am a confident person who never feels doubt, fear, or resistence. Hah! That is just not the truth. I’m happy to tell you this in hopes that you give yourself permission to be yourself, learn the skill of being confident, and start creating daily habits that boost your confidence if you’re feeling insufficient!

How Can I Start Improving My Confidence?

So, with the realistic expectation you now have about your confidence level. Let’s give it a boost!

1. Be aware

Becoming aware of times in your job search when you feel a lack of confidence is the first step to actually giving it a boost. You cannot find a solution to your low confidence if you struggle to notice it, or mistake it for a different feeling like procrastination or feeling unmotivated. Become aware of the physical signs that you’re not feeling confident. Usually you can feel the discomfort in the pit of your stomach. This is your sign! Don’t back away from the opportunity, the interview, or the salary negotiation just because you feel this way. Simply become aware of it and take note.

2. Find your pattern

The more you notice and take note of when you feel a drop in confidence, the closer you are to finding a solution. Maybe you notice that you start to read job descriptions and you are excited in the first few lines. But when you get to the requirements section, just reading the word QUALIFICATIONS gives you immediate doubts. You go to close the page as soon as you find one bullet that does not align with your current experience. Is that you? Do you back away after this? If so, it’s good to notice this pattern.

3. Break the cycle

I’m going to give you some tips below on how to feel more confident and how it translates into a successful job search. However before that, you need to commit to breaking this unhealthy cycle. That means if you go on social media and see everyone working by the beach with their #laptoplifestyle and immediately get down on yourself, STOP scrolling. Okay? Instead do healthy things that make you feel good. Maybe read some of the success stories from my former VIP members who are just like you! They tell how they actually got their remote job and what helped them along the way. This is a much more healthy way of consuming inspiration that can help you feel MORE confident in your ability to reach your remote goals instead of feeling inadequate from vague/unrealistic social media posts.

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Now that you’re ready to break the cycle and boost your confidence, what are some of my top tips for remote job seekers?

1. Only focus on skills that you need for your IDEAL remote positions.

Sometimes it can feel like you have no skills in the field you want to thrive in, while everybody else is taking online courses and certifications to be the ultimate remote work candidate. Don’t feed into the frenzy! It will only make you feel like your chasing confidence by adding more and more new skills and missing opportunities that you can actually get with all of the skills you have right now.

Instead of reading various job descriptions and feeling like you need all of the skills listed, collect your top 3 job descriptions ever! You know the ones I’m talking about… the remote jobs of your dreams.

If there are any qualifications or skills that you currently do not have, research a way to improve on these! Forget all of the other skills mentioned in job listings that you weren’t even interested in or were just sort of skimming to see if you were qualified. If you have zero intention of applying there, don’t pay attention to what skills they want you to have. Only focus on your IDEAL role requirements.

I have a whole training called Where, How, and Why To Uplevel Your Skills in the VIP membership. It includes a treasure chest of completely free online courses and certifications that you can go to at any time to get more of the digital skills that you actually need. Join today to get access.

2. Apply When You Feel A Bit Unqualified

Say what?? Yes. You read that correctly. Apply when you meet 50-75% of the requirements on a job listing. Especially if you connect with the company on a personal level. Remote companies care more about a great culture and personality fit than the years of experience you bring to the table. Yes, you need to be qualified. But most HR professionals will tell you that the qualifications section is more like a wish list and they’re hoping to see candidates that can fill most of that list. If you count yourself out when you see one requirement that you don’t meet… you are perpetuating your lack of confidence. Go for it! See how many interviews you get with being mostly qualified and watch your confidence go way up!

*Most of my favorite remote work success stories include the ballsy move of applying even when they didn’t feel totally qualified for it. Some even less than 50%! GASP!

3. Be Able To Speak Confidently About Yourself

What if you are the person who loses confidence right before an interview and completely bombs it by just rambling through it?

You can nail remote interviews if you practice these key parts of speaking confidently. Do you need to work on any of these?

  • Have a power statement that explains who you are, what you’ve done, and why you’re here applying for this job. Do you get asked questions like “Tell us more about your background” and clammer your way through an awful story-told version of your resume? Don’t know what to say when they ask you “Why are you interested in working here?” Yeah, you’re not alone! But communicating your personal brand statement, with all of the essential components that the company is looking for, is important to sealing the deal. My VIP members nail this part because I train them with a fill in the blank worksheet! Want to get your hands on that? Join VIP today!
  • Practice your interview beforehand. This could be with a partner, your parents, your friend, or even just recording yourself on screen. This is essential to feeling confident before you need to speak to the interviewer. It’s amazing to me how many people know that this would be a good prep step but completely skip it!
  • Communicate your salary standards professionally and confidently. It’s really simple once you’ve written your salary negotiation statement and then practiced speaking it out loud in the mirror. Are you confident with the salary range you’ve settled on asking for? Do you say it but then keep talking and give a bunch of justifications for why you need/deserve that income? Or are you confident enough to say it out loud and then close your mouth. Await a response. Now that’s confidence.

4. Get Comfortable Feeling Uncomfortable

This is kind of like the common piece of advice: face the fear and do it anyways. Please know that no-one feels 100% confident before trying to land a job, a speaking gig, a brand sponsorship, etc. Everyone feels those butterflies in their stomachs. Most people feel like backing down before a big challenges. Heck, people even second guess themselves right before walking down the wedding aisle. That’s totally normal. What sets successful people apart at this point, is that they face their fear and do it anyway. They are used to activating their confidence with habits that they know will make them feel confident enough to succeed.

Do you have yours? Develop a set of habits that boost your confidence and then use these on a daily basis.

Come talk with me at 5pm Central to hear my confidence habits and suggestions for you. Tell me where you lack confidence and I’ll give you a mantra and daily practice for fixing it!

Thinking of joining? Fabulous! Click below!

Encouragement from other women who are in the process of starting their remote careers, private group training, resume and cover letter makeovers, plus much more! Usually, members get remote jobs within 3 months and then spread their wings to fly on their own. 

Get the weekly roundup everyweek on Mondays and gain instant access the entire members area with video trainings on topics like searching, applying, and interviewing.

The Weekly Roundup is a list of over 40 hand picked remote job opportunities. These jobs include full time, part time, contract, freelance, and one off project work, worldwide.

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